Before Sam moved away, we were both quite anxious about the communication side of things, not only due to the time difference but also the methods/technology too. We planned before he left which methods of communication we would use- we decided on Facebook Messenger and Skype. These have both been really good and I would definitely recommend you to give them a try if you haven’t already.
More often than not, Sam and I just call on Facebook Messenger and don’t use the video feature, as it is simpler and more convenient for a quick catch up. But every now and again we will Skype or use the video function of Facebook Messenger, just so we can see each other and feel like we’re actually with each other. Non-verbal communication is just as important as the words we say, and so sometimes it is nice to be able to still have this despite Sam being on the other side of the world.
Also before he left, I created some ‘Open When’ letters.
I only created a few (as I had done another mini project for him which I will talk about in a different LDR post), but they were just little messages that he could read when I was perhaps asleep or busy- unable to talk. So far he has only opened “Open when you can’t get to sleep”, in which I had drawn a Sudoku puzzle for him to complete and then on the back, some sheep to count!
These little ideas were extras, for when I wasn’t around to chat to. This works for us because it is a very me-ish thing to do, but for some people it may feel too formal in the style of a letter in an envelope, so perhaps you could record voice messages instead? Any others tips you have, feel free to comment below- they may come in handy for me!
SAM SAYS: “If you move away to a different country than your girl/boyfriend then it may be a good idea to get a new SIM card and some data, so that even when you are away from WiFi you can still access the internet. From experience it is reassuring to know that you can contact people if needed.”